Discover Your Natural Strengths for Building Self-Confidence in Relationships

Discover Your Natural Strengths for Building Self-Confidence in Relationships

 “Natural strengths, abilities, and talents are innate capabilities that come naturally to you, though they can be further developed through practice and effort” AI

 

You might be singing, dancing, painting, building or solving a complicated problem and the time passes so fast you can’t believe you need to stop. Chances are you are working in your natural strengths. You have energy and nothing is stopping you. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, author of Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, would say that you are in the “flow.”

 

Your strengths are abilities that come so naturally that they seem to operate without effort. Because things seem so easy when you are using your strengths you often don’t recognize them as special abilities. You wonder why others can’t do them just as easily.

 

We are naturally curious about ourselves, and we love to learn about what motivates us and what makes us “tick” so to speak. Noticing the similarities and differences between ourselves and those we work and live with helps us appreciate our strengths and the abilities of people we have relationships with.

 

Using our strengths, we create a network of healthy relationships. Your relationships and connections are your insurance policy for success in your work and life. Your relationships and network will help you find opportunities during times of transition. 

 

Your network for finding a job or business relationship comes through successfully communicating your strengths. In this section you will learn to recognize and describe your strengths for relationship building, networking, and effective job search.

 

If you are not comfortable in your own skin, it is easy to compare yourself with others, and find yourself lacking. Too often differences appear as conflicts rather than compliments in relationships. 


When you develop your natural strengths, you will be able to tap into your energy and joy. We are sometimes pressured to learn skills that don’t fit our Natural Strengths or Values, which often causes tension and poor health. There are several reasons why your strengths may not have been valued:

·      Maybe your strengths weren’t valued by your friends, family or school environment.

·      You may not have had the opportunity to develop your Strengths because of physical or environmental limitations.

·      You may have learned to be so flexible and adaptable that you do a variety of things well, but you are not finding joy in the things you are doing.


Even if you were valued and esteemed for who you are by your family, and were able to participate in activities that helped foster your strengths, we live in a world that isn’t always fair and just.  All cultures value some character traits over others. When something is valued, it will be acted upon. 

 

The four vegetables that make the Vegetable Personality Styles™ are the Purple Carrot, the Green Bean, the Orange Pepper, and the Red Tomato. Just like you can easily see different styles in people, there are many variations in the way vegetables look and feel. But you can tell the difference between a carrot and a green bean even though they are both long and fairly slender. 

 

 

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